God, Kids and Parents: Myk and Sydney [Guest]


Dr Myk Habets is a theologian at Carey Baptist College, where I studied for four years.

He’s pretty flash! As well as lecturing in systematic theology, hermeneutics and ethics, he’s head of the newish Carey Graduate School and Director of the RJ Thompson Centre for Theological Studies. He’s also a husband and father, and a preacher, so he has regular practice at stretching his theological conversations to connect with everyone from pre-schoolers to post-graduates.

This article first appeared in the New Zealand Baptist newspaper in 2010 (The Baptist 126 no. 2 (March 2010), 19) and Myk followed it up with one about his son, Liam, which I’ll also post here soon. (By the way, his name is pronounced like ‘Mike,’ for those of you who would like to hear it accurately in your heads as you read.) Please feel free to ask him any questions or carry on discussing things in the comments below.

Welcome, Myk!

During the day I teach systematic theology at Carey Baptist College and I publish books and articles on the doctrine of the Trinity and other related topics. Outside of work I am a husband and the father of two lovely little children – a three-year-old daughter named Sydney, and a one-year old-son named Liam.

At bedtime my wife and I tuck Sydney in and then pray with her before she goes off to sleep. Early on in this routine I had to ask myself a question – How will I lead Sydney in prayer? Theology is produced by worship and worship is the product of theology, so prayer is an aspect of both theology and worship, something I lecture on all the time to adults. But how to inculcate in my three-year-old daughter good theological habits was the question.

Now I don’t believe there is any one right answer to this question so what follows is not a ‘this is what you should do,’ or ‘this is the correct way.’ Rather, what follows is the way that I have adopted in teaching my daughter how to pray that is biblical, God-honouring, and theologically robust.

First some rules of Trinitarian theology the church has found to be faithful to Scripture. 1), God is one being, three persons. 2), each person has a distinct identity and yet each is fully God. 3), it is appropriate to think of the action of the triune God as one and undivided and yet to think of the work of the three divine persons as distinct. 4), Jesus is physically at the right hand of the Father. 5), God is Spirit and thus the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit are everywhere present at all times.

That leaves us with prayer ‘Sydney style.’ This is what I did not want to pray, not because it is incorrect, but because it is ambiguous and teaches, in my opinion, bad habits which rear their ugly fruit in later life. ‘Dear God, thank you for…, Dear God, we ask for…’ The word ‘God’ is perfectly fine, but it lacks any specificity and is, at best, impersonal, at worst it is an idea or concept divorced from the triune God of the Bible.

So this is what we pray. ‘Dear God the Father in heaven, and God Jesus Christ in heaven, and God the Holy Spirit who lives inside me. We thank you for…We ask you for…’ Now that Sydney is getting older, we pray the following, ‘Dear God the Father in heaven, and everywhere, God Jesus Christ who is in heaven, and everywhere by his Spirit, and God the Holy Spirit, who is in my heart and the hearts of those who love him. We thank you for…We ask you for…’

I trust it is obvious what I am doing but let me spell it out briefly for the sake of clarity. I am using the word ‘God’ in reference to the triune God who is intensely personal. This will (hopefully!) avoid Sydney having any ideas that God is an impersonal force, or energy or that he is static. I am using the personal names for God – ‘Father,’ ‘Son’/’Jesus Christ,’ ‘Holy Spirit’ – in personal ways and in differentiated ways, so that she develops the habit of thinking of God as three persons but one being (not that this language is available to her at present). And I am making it clear that the triune God is personally present to her and at the same time universally present in creation and beyond. I am hoping this will forestall any individualistic notions of her Christianity and yet develop within her an intimacy with the triune God of grace.

Well this is what I am doing and why I am doing it. So if you see Sydney around church or Carey, why not ask her where the Holy Spirit is (or the Father or Jesus) and see what she says? Perhaps a follow up article in a few years is required to see how my experiment is going. I do pray to the triune God that she develops the mind of Christ in worship and comes to know and love God for who he really is, despite my theological and parental limitations.


This is part of an occasional series of insights from parents on how to raise their children ‘in the faith.’ The first in the series is from Rod Robson, and the full series list is here.

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3 comments on “God, Kids and Parents: Myk and Sydney [Guest]”

  1. Andy Reply

    Brilliant way to help kids understand the trinity, and to get their theology as right as their minds can cope with. Lovely phrasing.

    What’re your thoughts on kids learning a catechism as a way of grounding them in solid theology bites from a young age? They’re sponges for almost any information, and good information seems to be preferable to the latest wiggles song / random nursery rhyme.
    we’ve made sporadic attempts with the below, which is worded simply enough for children while not being infantile.


  2. myk Reply

    Hi Andy, I love the idea of a catechism, but unless both parents are keen on it it doesn’t work. I will check out the work you have linked to as it looks great! So yes, love the idea and think it will work well if done naturally with our children and if they see that we beleive it. Not convinced it works as well in very formal contexts however. Thanks!

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