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Ten Books, Four Words Each: Most Influential

The latest booklovers’ chain-letter going around Facebook seems to be a challenge to list (without too much agonising) your ten most ‘influential’ books. Heavens. To stay in the spirit of the challenge I’ve tried to write this in one sitting, presumably missing a lot of worthy contenders, but hopefully capturing some kind of truth. And […]

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6 Golden Tips for Becoming a Great Listener

This is a reworking of an earlier post that was part of the Generous Lent series, just to make it more widely applicable. Feel free to share it around if you think it’s helpful.  A good listener is never short of friends. Some people are naturals at this popular skill, and you might be lucky […]

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ANZAC Day

I don’t have much of my own to say about ANZAC Day. Like many of my generation I am deeply ambivalent about how to commemorate some of the most horrific events of the twentieth century. Rather than muddle around in my own thoughts, I thought I’d share some beautiful and brutal things from friends that […]

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‘It Hurts Because it Mattered’

Add this to your list of empathetic things it might be appropriate to say to someone in pain (though we’re usually better to say very little, and just listen well and offer a hug): it hurts because it matters. This is from author John Green (he co-wrote the charming and brilliant Will Grayson, Will Grayson, […]

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Talking about Baby Loss: Stephanie’s Story [Guest]

A warm welcome and heartfelt thanks to Stephanie, a Dunedin mother, lawyer and regular commenter here, who is generously telling some of her story of baby loss today. She is available to talk further in the comments, so do feel free to ask questions and share your experiences. I always feel uncomfortable when a stranger […]

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Not Only A Father #5: Knowing the Unknowable [Guest]

Many thanks to Dr Tim Bulkeley who today wraps up his series based on his book, Not Only A Father, looking at gendered language for God. For more on Tim’s background, see the first post. Theology is only real when we live it. So chapter 6 of Not Only a Father tries to suggest ways we can […]

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Education and Schooling #9: The Finland Plan [Guest]

I once read a report describing the quality of education in a variety of countries which concluded that the best curriculum in the world is the one used in New Zealand. I spat my tea. Poppycock. The one used in New Zealand is simply the best in New Zealand. It cannot be compared with the […]

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How It Is #7: The Fog Is Lifting

  For the first time in 16 months, the fog is lifting. I am feeling ‘normal’ over half the time now, and it feels amazing. Most of the time, now, I can cope with the unexpected, I can make decisions, I can bounce back from disappointments. I am regaining creativity in a few directions. I’m […]

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Fasting, Old-School Styles

I considered procuring a sackcloth onesie recently. A couple of months ago, SBJ began to add sit-down-in-the-street protests to his repertoire of new behaviours. If he wanted to run off independently in a carpark but was restrained, or, maddeningly, if we wanted him to walk but he wanted to be carried, then all in an […]

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On a Day Off

If you have kids and if you are lucky enough to have someone in your life who can look after them beautifully for a whole day (in yesterday’s case, my kind husband), you can: leave the house lightly laden think jaywalk have a leisurely breakfast over four courses at the cool new café down the […]

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